Alex was told that he was just ten days away from death when he was taken into hospital during an abusive relationship with his then girlfriend, Jordan.
Gedeeld van: YouTube
In een woning in Bunde is vrijdag een hoogbejaarde vrouw om het leven gebracht. De politie heeft inmiddels een verdachte aangehouden.
De verdachte is voor verhoor meegenomen naar het politiebureau. De aangehouden man is bij de bewuste woning gearresteerd. Hij is ook de persoon die melding maakte van de vondst van de vrouw.
De vrouw werd even voor kwart voor vijf in de woning aan de Pletsstraat aangetroffen. Medewerkers van de ambulancedienst hebben nog geprobeerd om het slachtoffer te reanimeren.
De omgeving van het huis is afgezet. In en rondom de woning hebben medewerkers van de Forensische Opsporing technisch onderzoek verricht.
De politie tast nog in het duister over de achtergrond van het misdrijf. De identiteit van het slachtoffer en de dader zijn nog niet vrijgegeven.
Evenmin is duidelijk hoe de vrouw om het leven is gekomen. De politie doet nog onderzoek naar de relatie tussen de verdachte en het slachtoffer. Daarvoor worden ook buurtbewoners ondervraagd.
Gedeeld van: Limburger.nl
Politie trof moeder zwaargewond aan
Submitted by: *Gina, Survivor
According to the Stalking Resource Center, stalking is commonly linked to intimate partner violence. Approximately 60% of female stalking victims and 45% of male victims reported being stalked by someone they were currently seeing or had dated in the past. Because stalking is used as a tool of control or to discourage the victim from making multiple attempts to leave, it is also common for it to begin while the victim is still with the abuser. This makes it particularly difficult for the victim to exit.
After a victim does leave, abusers often continue stalking to intimidate them and maintain control over their lives. The father of Gina’s second child was arrested multiple times during their relationship. Following a violent attack where he threatened to kill her while she was on the phone with 911, Gina moved out. He reacted by breaking into her house to watch her sleep at night and raised false allegations, causing her to temporarily lose her children. Find out what happened when Gina decided to fight back.
Gina’s first abusive relationship happened when she was 19 years old. The man who abused her was ten years older than she was. He was alcoholic and abused Gina verbally, physically, and financially. Around the time she found she was pregnant with their son, he started hitting and choking her.
He was arrested on many occasions, but he made Gina tell everyone that she was bipolar and exaggerated everything that happened. One time when she was six months pregnant, they were fighting. During the argument, it turned physical. He bent her arm behind her back, told her that he was going to break it, and then put a gun to her head.
After an assault that led to an emergency hospital visit, Gina moved out. The man who abused her responded by breaking into her house to watch her sleep.
Gina managed to call 911, but he thought it was only a friend. While she was still on the phone with the dispatcher, he yelled into the phone that he was going to kill her. He then threw her to the floor and started kicking her in the back.
Andrea started bleeding and feared that she was losing her baby. He rushed her to hospital, but when they got there, he would not let her talk to the nurse. Instead, he made up a story about what happened, denying her an opportunity to say anything. When they got home, the door had been kicked in by the police. They were dispatched following the 911 call and were trying to find her, but he and Gina were at the hospital when the police came. He beat her again after they got home as punishment for the door being broken.
Shortly after this assault, Gina moved out but continued to date him. They lived separately, but the abuse continued when they spent time together. Soon, she was able to buy her first house. He was so jealous and angry over her being on her own that he started stalking her at night.
He would come over after she went to bed, remove the glass from the back door so he could unlock it, and let himself in. After he was inside, he would sit at the end of her bed and watch her sleep. Gina found out two months after it started happening when her neighbor told her that his car was always there.
When her stalker made false allegations against Gina stating she was hurting her children, they were taken away, and she attempted suicide.
Unaware of what had been happening, she told the neighbor that he never stayed overnight. Gina decided to install a security system and ending up recording footage of him trying to get into her house. This went on until her son was two years old.
“I lost both of my children for about four months because he said that I had threatened to hurt them. When my children were taken away, I attempted suicide. I was lost, and I didn’t know what to do or why it was happening to me.
“He repeatedly violated the protective order. Finally, I found the strength to document the stalking by using cameras to record activity at the front and back of the house. I also recorded phone calls and saved the text messages he sent.
“This helped me get my kids back, but it didn’t end the drama. He continued to threaten me and constantly made false accusations about me. Attempting to co-parent with him was difficult, but my son finally turned 18 this past year.
“That was just the start of domestic violence for me. Two marriages that followed were also violent, and I almost didn’t survive one of them. I was quick to get out of both.”
*Name has been changed to protect survivor’s identity.
Gedeeld van: BTSADV
De dertigjarige Stephan K. is donderdag veroordeeld tot achttien jaar cel voor de moord op zijn ex-vriendin in aanwezigheid van haar peuterdochter.
Het slachtoffer werd eind 2018 in haar woning in Rotterdam gevonden.
De gaspitten in het huis van het slachtoffer waren opengedraaid, met het risico op een ontploffing. De rechtbank rekent het K. zwaar aan dat de peuterdochter in huis aanwezig was en hij zich niet om haar bekommerde. De peuter bleef ongedeerd.
K. gaf toe dat hij de fatale avond bij zijn ex-vriendin in huis was, maar hij ontkent dat hij iets met haar dood te maken heeft. “Ik vind het vreselijk voor iedereen die het beste met haar voorhad”, zei hij twee weken geleden tijdens de behandeling van de zaak.
Het slachtoffer was volgens het Openbaar Ministerie “achter wat leugens en leugentjes” van K. gekomen. Zo had hij haar verteld dat hij een ernstige ziekte had, om te verdoezelen dat hij geen geen baan kon vinden. Ook had K. rekeningen afgesloten op naam van het slachtoffer.
Vlak voor de moord had het slachtoffer haar ex-vriend de deur gewezen. Ze wilde aangifte tegen K. doen.
Gedeeld van: Linda.nl
Submitted by: Amanda, Survivor
On average, it takes seven attempts to leave before a victim successfully exits an abusive relationship. There are many reasons why exiting is so difficult. Some victims may not want to break their family apart or rely on the abusive partner to survive. Others hold out hope that the abuser will change or, because they believe the abuse is their fault, think it is possible to change something about themselves to make the abuse stop.
Even if there has been no physical violence in the relationship or if the victim has been quietly planning their exit, leaving is still incredibly dangerous. Amanda shares with us why she kept going back to her abuser, what happened when he realized that she was finally leaving, and where she is now.
As is usually the case, Amanda says that the man who abused her was an amazing person when they first met. She was thankful and in shock that a man could be so good to her. Slowly but surely, things changed. He was quick to get angry with her and had no patience with her child.
When Amanda’s family would come over, he became angry and said horrible things about them. He also started to manipulate and gaslight her, and she eventually started thinking that her family was the problem. Later, Amanda agreed to move out of state with a man that would continue mental abuse and cause her more pain as time passed.
Amanda recalled that she tried to leave him multiple times. Each time she left, he would sweet-talk her into coming back. The abuse was escalating, and Amanda found herself becoming increasingly angry with the situation she was in. She started fighting back, and he hated it.
Slowly, Amanda started to separate herself from him. She carefully planned with a way to leave and began seeing a counselor while he was at work. Although Amanda was gaining confidence and self-esteem, she was able to convince him that she was still completely into their relationship and committed to him long-term.
Finally, when he realized she was leaving, they had the worst fight they had ever had. Amanda was scared to death that she was not going to make it out alive. She desperately tried to figure out how to call the police while he assaulted her while she held their baby in her arms. Amanda cried and screamed for someone to save her.
Once she was finally able to get to a phone, Amanda called 911 and tried to protect her baby from the attack. She begged the person on the line to help her and recalls that waiting for help to arrive felt like an eternity. The fear from that night was enough to keep her from ever returning to her abuser. The next day, Amanda filed for divorce, full custody of the children, and an order of protection; she was granted everything she requested.
“That night was the last time I have ever had to talk to or see my abuser. Now, I’m getting counseling and learning how a healthy relationship progresses. I’m also seeing an amazing man that treats my children and me with respect. Most importantly, I feel safe.
“The old me spent three years craving the safety that I have now. I’m lucky to have made it out alive. Just remember, every time you try to leave and go back is not a reason to quit trying. Get out – there is a way.”
Gedeeld van: BTSADV
After fleeing her abusive relationship the brave woman was left terrified after her ex-partner repeatedly turned up at her new home after she ordered a takeaway using the fast food app
A woman was tracked down by her abusive ex-partner three times – after ordering a takeaway to her new home using the Just Eat app.
The victim, whose identity cannot be shared, was discovered despite moving house several times over the past year.
Now a women’s refuge has urged people to check their security settings in order to protect them from further violence or harrassment.
Charity Juno Women’s Aid issued a warning on Twitter this morning in a series of tweets.
The victim had not realised that her ex could access her new address by logging into the Just Eat account they had previously shared.
Now the domestic violence service has urged people to check who has access to their accounts.
The account tweeted: “WARNING about using food delivery apps [THREAD] A survivor of domestic abuse recently discovered how her ex-partner was able to stalk her and know her whereabouts through a food delivery app.
“Despite moving house 3 times in the past year, the offender was able to track her to each address, even in areas he didn’t frequent.
“It transpires that, whilst still in the relationship, he had added his bank card details to the victim’s “Just Eat” account, so that they could both pay for meals on the same account.”
Now the charity, in Nottingham, has issued a warning urging victims to ensure they are not sharing their account or email login details with anyone.
On Twitter, the charity added: “Takeaway delivery services via smartphone apps are now widely used, with popular fast-food chains adding more services daily.
“People may not think of this as contributing to their digital footprint, which could be used by an offender to find them.
“If you or someone you know is a survivor of stalking, harassment or domestic abuse, it may be worth checking if such delivery apps are in use and, if there are linked account details, change the account or close it.”
Just Eat has urged victims of stalking or domestic abuse to ensure that their account details are secure.
A spokeswoman said: “As with any online service, it is important to ensure your Just Eat account details are secure.”
Gedeeld van mirror.co.uk
A WOMAN who was dragged out of bed and beaten by her paedo boyfriend after she dumped him has revealed her horror injuries.
Coral Halson, 23, was left with permanent numbness in her face when beast Lewis Moseley, 20, knocked her unconscious after she ended their relationship.
A chilling recording taken by her as Moseley carries out his sickening attack captures the moment he screams: “My life’s over – and it’s all your fault” — before he knocks her unconscious.
The 23-year-old was recovering from the brutal beating when a 14-year-old girl told her Moseley had been sending her sexual messages on Facebook.
Coral asked the schoolgirl to send her the damning screenshots before reporting him to the police.
Moseley was jailed for 15 months after admitting assault and attempting to incite a child into sexual activity.
Coral, who was left so injured and stressed that she lost her hair, is speaking out to lend support to other victims of domestic violence.
Coral, from Manchester, said: “I didn’t believe the girl at first. It sounds mad, but even after the attack, I found myself sticking up for him.
“But then she forwarded on screenshots of the messages Lewis had sent her and I felt sick.
“I told the police straight away and Lewis was arrested.
“I couldn’t believe that while he had been seeing me he had been trying to get an underage girl to have sex with him.”
Coral and Moseley had known each other since they were teenagers but they didn’t begin a relationship until they started chatting on Facebook in 2016.
When Coral moved to Sunderland to live with him in April last year, Moseley became possessive and controlling.
The retail assistant said: “He didn’t like me going out or seeing my friends.
“I loved him, but he wasn’t the man I thought he was.
“On one occasion after I told him I’d had enough of his controlling behaviour he kicked and smashed a window in our flat.
“After our fights he was always really sorry. He would tell me he loved me and promise it would never happen again.”
In June last year the couple planned to have a quiet night in and Coral had made dinner.
But Moseley did not return home from a night in the pub until midnight and Coral told him their relationship was over and she was going to move out.
She went to bed but was woken by Moseley, dragged from under the covers and then subjected to a attack which knocked her unconscious.
Before she passed out Coral used her phone to record the lead up to the moment he punched her in the face.
Moseley fled out of a window and when she came round Coral dialled 999 and was rushed to A&E.
She suffered a fractured cheekbone and the left side of her face has now been left permanently numb.
Coral gave the audio recording to police and officers tracked Moseley down and arrested him.
She moved back in with her family and her mum took care of her while she recovered from her injuries.
Coral then received a series of messages from the 14-year-old saying Moseley had asked to have sex with her.
Moseley, of Sunderland, admitted assault and attempting to incite a child into sexual activity.
He was jailed for 15 months at Newcastle Crown Court on March 23 this year.
A YOUNG mum has told how her controlling boyfriend handcuffed her at night and sniffed her pants when she got home from work – to check if she’d been secretly sleeping with her colleagues.
John McLaughlin, 32, also hacked into Devon Brown’s car’s black box to track her movements and had a camera fitted in their home so he could monitor her every movement.
And he set booby traps for their middle-aged and married neighbour, who he wrongly believed was having an affair with Devon, 26.
Devon has opened up about her ordeal, in a bid to raise awareness of coercive control – an offence which was only made illegal at the end of 2015.
In an exclusive interview with Fabulous she revealed that John was “a real gentleman” when she first met him but he soon turned into a possessive nightmare.
She said: “He would sit outside my office from 9am to 5pm and, when we got home, he would insist on sniffing my knickers, to check if I’d been having sex at work.
“I wasn’t allowed to take my phone with me upstairs in case I was texting another man. He would even wait for me outside the toilet.”
The couple first met in June 2017 after he rented a home through a lettings agency she was working at.
Devon explained: “At first John was lovely, a real gentleman, and so caring and affectionate.
“I have a little girl, who is seven, and he was brilliant with her, reading her bedtime stories, cooking meals and planning days out. He had a good job and he seemed like the perfect catch.”
The couple moved in together in Wigan in January this year.
But their relationship immediately showed signs of cracking with McLaughlin even quitting his job so he could spend more time with her.
Devon explained: “John insisted on meeting me every day after work which I thought was lovely at first. But if I tried to make any other arrangement, he would go mad.
“I soon realised he wanted to keep a check on me but I just thought he was a bit insecure.
“I loved him so much, and my daughter adored him so I was desperate to make things work.”
He accused me of having affairs with our friends, neighbours, and the men who worked at a factory down the road. He even accused me of having an affair with his own dad.
He soon began accusing Devon of having an affair with their neighbour.
Devon said: “Our neighbour was married and middle-aged, he was a friend of my dad’s. He was in no way flirty or inappropriate.
“But John was convinced I was having an affair with him and that we were meeting up secretly during the night.
“He started jamming paper on the top of our doors so he would know if they had been opened during the night. He would leave his phone on record all night to catch anyone sneaking into the house.
“I tried to reason with him but it was no good. I even bought a CCTV camera, to show him I had nothing to hide.
“But John set the camera up to film inside our living room. He spent hours and hours checking the tape, trying to catch me out.
“If there was any sort of glitch on the tape, he would accuse me of stopping it whilst I had sex with the neighbour.”
She continued: “I had a black box fitted to my car for the insurance and John hacked into it and followed everything I did. I couldn’t even drive to the corner shop without him demanding an explanation.
“If I went to see my mum or my sister I had to send him a selfie to prove where I was.
“My best friend Lesley asked me to her bridesmaid and he accused me of knocking off her fiance, that same day.
“He accused me of having affairs with our friends, neighbours, and the men who worked at a factory down the road. He even accused me of having an affair with his own dad.
“I had bought a pair of handcuffs for John for Valentine’s Day, just for a bit of a laugh. I was trying to make our relationship fun again.
“But, sick of his accusations, I said to him: ‘Why don’t you handcuff me? That will prove my point.’
“John took it seriously and we went to bed handcuffed to each other, so that he could monitor my movements.”
After work, he would insist on inspecting my knickers, to check if I’d been having sex at work. It was degrading. I was starting to lose my confidence and the stress was really getting to me.
“I lay there for hours and eventually it was his decision to release me because he couldn’t sleep.”
He also began to inspect Devon’s underwear when she arrived home.
“ It was degrading. I was starting to lose my confidence and the stress was really getting to me,” she explained, adding he would sit outside her office from 9am to 5pm.
“He would say ‘You’re mine and only mine.’ He refused to share me – even with my family. In the end, I gave up my job, because I just couldn’t cope.
“But even with me at home full time, he was still full of accusations.”
She added: “My family could see he was a destructive force but I was completely under his control. I had totally lost sight of the girl I had once been.
“He was never violent or aggressive. He never even raised his voice. But he controlled me completely. It was mental torture. Eventually I suffered a breakdown. I just couldn’t stand it.”
At the end of May, Devon decided to end the relationship but John refused to accept it.
Devon said: “We had a huge row and I tried to get out of the house but he wouldn’t let me go. He pushed me and he smashed me over the head with a can of lager. The police came and he was arrested.”
In June McLaughlin, 33, of Wigan, appeared at Bolton Magistrates’ Court where he pleaded guilty to assaulting his girlfriend and engaging in controlling or coercive behaviour between January 1 and June 9.
He will be sentenced later this month before a judge at Bolton Crown Court.
Now in a new relationship, Devon wants other women and men to know that even if a partner isn’t physically assaulting them they could still be abusing them.
“Now I can’t bear thinking about what happened for all those months,” she said. “I thought I loved him, but I didn’t. I was vulnerable at the time, having some problems, and he took advantage of me.
“He’s a monster.”
New domestic abuse laws made “coercive or controlling behaviour” a criminal offence on December 29 2015.
The Office for National Statistics said police forces recorded only 4,246 cases of coercive or controlling behaviour in the 12 months to March 2017, the most recent figures available.
“Psychological abuse comes in many forms such as financial, control but mainly it’s all about causing fear,” Lucy Hadley, campaign and public affairs officer for national domestic violence charity Women’s Aid, told Fabulous.
“Abuse of this type is about confinement and isolation as well.
“It’s about a repeated, consistent behaviour and it’s about monitoring and obsessing over every part of their life to ensure they feel scared.”
If you are being abused contact the National Domestic Abuse Violence freephone helpline on 0808 2000 247.